Love your choice.

It feels like pretty much my whole life (well, since high school) my sisters have had me in "Wife Training". I would pretty much always blow them off because I never thought about marriage. I never thought about my wedding, I didn't think about my colors, the flowers… anything.  I just figured I didn't want to imagine it until I could imagine WHO it would be with.  

Despite me trying to ignore their advice and miss their house cleaning and cooking lessons "practices" at their house, I eventually got sucked in when I could begin to see myself getting married in the not too distant future.  

I do remember this one time in particular my sister was giving me advice on the kind of person to marry.  These four things have stuck with me since I was probably 20 years old, and I would like to share this bit of life changing advice.  

1. Marry someone who is nothing less than OBSESSED with you.  She told me this because over the years of being married, honestly, your spouse will pretty much get used to you (it sounds sad, but yeah I'm sure its true) and eventually be a little less obsessed with you.  It's sad, but it's true.  So… you should marry someone who is OBSESSED with you before you get married.  Someone who is willing to do anything and everything for you at the beginning, because if that slowly goes away over the years, can you imagine how someone would treat you if they were never obsessed with you in the first place? 

2. Marry someone who won't dunk your head in the pool if you ask them not to.  This one especially applies to us Webb girls because we have dated a nice variety of boys over the years and of course, invited them to swim in our parents pool.  Do you know how many times in my life I have asked a boy NOT to dunk my head? 1. because I HATE the feeling of being dunked and 2. maybe because I have an important event later that day and I won't have time to re-do my hair.  Yeah, you can say that once that person pushed my underwater even though I specifically asked them not to, I was done with them. Obviously, this applies in many different areas of life.  The bottom line of this is just respect.  Marry someone who will respect you and your requests, even if it is as simple as not trying to drown you in the pool.  It seems like a simple request to me, but you would be surprised how difficult it can be for some "men" to honor that.  

3. Marry someone who will drag you out of bed and get you to church.  There are absolutely Sunday Mornings when I wake up and church is pretty much the last possible place I want to go (anywhere other than my bed is the last place I want to be).  You want to marry the kind of person who will encourage you and help you to get out of bed and go to those meetings, 1. because it's the right thing to do and 2.  because deep down you really DO want to go to church, it's just you need that extra push to get you there. 

*if you aren't a church-goer, this could apply to other things that are important to you, like perhaps the gym or a committee meeting or club or whatever.  

4. Marry someone who will defend you NO MATTER WHAT. It's always awkward to be with a couple who loves throwing each other under the bus. Marry someone who will defend you even if they know that you are dead-wrong in a situation. Someone who even if they knew that you were in the wrong when you cut that person off while driving, that is was so rude of them and uncalled for them to flip you off! A very… "us against the world" type of person. The person who will acknowledge the reality of your feelings… even if they can be a bit outrageous at times (i.e. crying for LITERALLY no reason)

I feel like we are getting to the age that everyone we know is getting engaged and married.  I have heard stories where to me, it sounds like some of these people are just getting married because they found someone who they COULD be married to, and they want to get married, so why not marry the next person they date? DON'T LET THIS BE YOU! Wait for the person who does these 4 vitally important things for you, as well as your own personal list of spouse-esque wishes.   

I still am the girl who loves love and believes in it above all other things.  I route for all marriages to work out, especially when things are really rough (come on keep trying! this is just a moment in time! you can work it out!). But don't start your marriage off by settling or convenience. 

I am so grateful to have a husband who is all of these things and more for me.  You have taught me so much in these short six months of marriage.  I am so in love with you. 

But like I always say… "Choose your love, love your choice" 

best month ever.

I have always thought that May is easily, by far, the best month EVER!

First of all… it is my birthday

Second of all… it's Bryan's birthday

Third of all… it's our six month anniversary! 

not to mention it gets warm… school gets out… the pool opens… you know

(shout out to the time Bryan and I had a combined birthday party at age 17)

although it's been a crazy month, it has been so fun to just celebrate always! 

In April, Bryan thought it was Teacher Appreciation week (turns out it was actually the first week of May) but I was absolutely spoiled! Since then we have had lots of different "honorary weeks" where we just spoil each other for seriously… pretty much no reason.  it's awesome.

I can and can't believe we have been married for six months! 

six months of...

breakfast in bed

getting my lunch made for me every morning

our Saturday rituals of sleeping in, gym, and wheat pancakes

our weekly date nights

lots of surprises

nightly back tickles

lots of Parks and Rec and cuddling all day

laughing my brains out

lots of flowers & sweet notes

never having to get out of bed if it's under 80 degrees

lots of help around the house and dinner cooked

lots of sappy late night talks

lunch dates at work

spanish lessons

lots of making out

lots of motivation and encouragement

hours and hours of scooter rides

hilarious inside jokes & text messages

so much fun working with each other

being treated amazingly with all my different diseases/sicknesses

lots of "diet coke time"

lots of happiness

infinite love.

my poor husband has seen me at my absolutely, crazy-insane worst and still treats me every day like I'm his perfect flawless fiancé (before I ever made a mistake).  I am so lucky to have someone as weird, patient, hilarious, and handsome as him.

 it's my life's greatest accomplishment.

Bryan's dad told me that he thinks our birthdays are so close because we couldn't stand to be apart before we were born. 

I think he's right.

California.

UPDATE:

School is wrapping up in 3 short weeks!

I've been busy trying to figure out swimming lessons this summer

I went to Oregon for a girls trip

I went to a family trip in California!

My husband turned the big 2-3!

Oregon
It was amazing spending time with my mom and sisters in Oregon! It is so beautiful and GREEN there, I can't wait to live there one day! My sisters are seriously my best friends and they kill me over how weird they are, but it was so much fun seeing them and the crazy children.  

It was the first time being away from Bryan, and let's just say it was rough.  It was amazing being reunited again and made us love each other more.

Luckily for me, only two short weeks after our trip to Oregon, we all went as a Family to California and we never had to leave each other sides! 

California was amazing! (PS. On the way there we rode the PRIMM roller coaster in NV and if you EVER get the chance, DO IT and don't miss it because it was WORTH IT!) We rented a home in Anaheim so we could easily walk to Disneyland. We got into California late Saturday night and the party began.
Sunday was Bryan's BIG DAY! He turned 23! We spent the day at Huntington Beach, but it was so windy we were getting destroyed by sand.  However, I did get in the ocean and play with Bryan because it was his birthday.  My sister said that love changes people, and that was her proof. 

Monday was Disneyland.  In Disneyland my brothers, Bryan and I hit ALL the rides- and the lines were TOO long and it was WAY TOO HOT so we only spent one day there, even though the rest of my family was spending two days there.  Although it was hot and crazy, Disneyland was a lot of fun; however, i wouldn't go so far to say it was "magical". 

Tuesday was another beach day at Laguna Beach.  The water was freezing, but so much fun! It wasn't windy and it was a perfect beach day. 

Wednesday was probably my favorite day- my brothers, Bryan and I all went to Six Flags.  It took longer to get there than expected and it closed early so I was nervous we would hardly get to go on any rides.  But I was WRONG! The park was pretty much empty, so we walked on to almost every ride! We had time not only to go on every ride, but go on rides multiple times!!! And of course, we saw "Flo Rida" the famous rapper there, so… that happened. I love Six Flags! But I think I've had my roller coaster fix for a few months…especially after reading about all there accidental deaths as soon as we got back to the house.

And besides all of our daily activities, we of course played cards every night, had BBQs, went night swimming/hot tubbing, and of course Bryan shaved his head. 

The trip was so much fun and I'm so proud of Bryan for turning 23! 

but like I always say… "you gotta get me to that party, boy" 

1 Year

This month marks 1 year with my love.  

In honor of this special occasion,
I thought I would post some pictures of us (aka him) throughout the times… enjoy.

started from right here...

now we are here

then here

Just kidding!!!! 

but seriously...

Sort of I just don't know how I got so lucky

I can't believe we have only been together for a year, but then at the same time I can't believe it's been that long. 

the best part is, every day just keeps getting better. 

Happy 1 Month My Love! 

Or as I always like to say, "feliz uno ano, mi amorsito!"

Valentines Weekend

You know in life when the best thing EVER happens to you and you are so happy and excited that you want to tell EVERYONE, but at the same time it is so special that you don't want to let anyone know and you want to keep it all to yourself?

That's how I feel about this weekend. 

I had the MOST amazing weekend with my sweet husband in no other town than Cedar City.  

How can you have fun there? I asked myself the same question- but it was the most relaxing and much needed break I have basically ever needed. 

I am still adjusting to this whole "working full time" thing- that's been the hardest adjustment for me; but since we had a long weekend AND it fell on Valentines day, I knew I had to get away with Bryan.

But of course, what's Valentines Day without flowers and dinner? We didn't skip the cliche but fun part about Valentines Day as we ate at PF Changs and set out on our road trip to Cedar.

This weekend we did nothing, except hang out with each other and be together.  It was just so fun and perfect- it felt like our Honeymoon all over again where we didn't have to worry about a single thing except for each other. (I know I haven't even been married that long- but life gets so busy and catches up with you that some weeks I feel like I hardly ever see Bryan).  

The weather was amazing so we enjoyed being outside, taking walks, having picnics, and of course road biking! We went to St. George one day and Bryan kicked my BUTT since it was literally my first time on a  road bike ever, but it was still so much fun! It's been a lifelong dream of mine to be a road-biker and it looks like a new hobby I will have (with a little more practice). Since I'm married to basically Lance Armstrong (minus the cancer), I died trying to keep up, but he was a good supporter as I screamed down big hills, whined up the big ones, and felt like my whole body was going to break at the end of our ride.  But he was proud of me, so it made it all worth it. 

I have just never felt more grateful in all of my life.

I'm more in love with Bryan than I ever have been. 

I just still can't BELIEVE I found someone as weird as I am and who understands my humor/sarcasm. And someone who knows what I'm thinking before I even say it. and can make me feel better by just their presence.  And goes above and beyond on things like Valentines Day just because I love it. and who has endless patience and just listens when all I need to do is complain for 5 uninterrupted minutes.  and who is willing to do anything & everything for me. like it's SO EASY to be in love with him. and together, we are perfect. 

This weekend really falls second to our wedding and honeymoon.  There were so many fun and special moments I know I will always hold dear to my heart.

I just love Valentines Day. I feel giddy with butterflies. 

Official.

Okay, so I know only a few mere weeks ago I was blogging about how I am not so "wife-y" and I am still "hip".  

It's sad to say that somewhere along the past few weeks I have aged 10 years.  I STARTED COOKING! Yes, full on COOKING.  Mostly I'm doing it so that my sister will like hanging out with me and talking about food and won't move, as well as impressing my husband so that all he wants to do is tickle my back and praise me for an hour- but I'm doing it! Seriously and it doesn't even suck that bad. I made like coconut curry chicken and Russian chicken in honor of the Olympics. 

AND It's kinda fun! hopefully I can just keep it going. 

(LITERALLY THIS PICTURE GIVES NO JUSTICE FOR HOW GOOD IT WAS AND HARD IT WAS TO MAKE)

Second of all- we spoke in church and made this whole marriage thing official.  Yes, I gave the whole introduction to the new ward about how we met and where we work and whatnot and we were officially accepted into the ward.  SO excepted that they called me to be the first counselor in the Young Women's Presidency.  Honestly, I am a little nervous. I mean, I think back at how all my young women leaders impacted my life and how much I looked up to them and still do! That seems like a lot of pressure for someone who is just trying to figure it out.  I am so excited to be back in Young Women's though.  Back in the day I was basically the #1 YW Fan(unless I wanted to hang out with a boy then I pretty much sucked because I would ditch wednesday night mutual). But regardless, I freaking LOVE girls camp and basically everything about Young Women's.  

I'm just nervous that I'm going to freak the crap out of everyone with how hyper I am and loud I can get when I play games and make everyone so competitive in the friendliest way possible and pump them all up on Personal Progress because I freaking LOVE IT!

Hopefully they can handle all this.

I am so nervous and excited.  I just know that this is where I am supposed to be because of how calm my spirit is, and because of the blessing I received when I was being set apart.  I hope that I can help bless and impact the girls the way that my leaders did for me.

And in other news: I just have to give Bryan a shout out. Mostly because he is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I love him. But also because he does anything and everything for me.  And he just watches Juno with me while I DIE. And gets me water and blankets more than I can explain.  and heats up my car EVERY MORNING and makes me lunch & breakfast every day.  and is just so sweet and obsessed with me and I am CREEPILY AND CRAZILY IN LOVE WITH HIM STILL. and I can't wait to be in love on Valentines day for the first time ever!

but like I always say "I'm Happy"

Feeling... poetic.

Today, I've decided to express myself through poetry. Ehm......

...like kicking a cane from under an elderly human

... like taking away a baby's favorite binkey

... like taking candy from a child

... like watching your house burn down

... like losing your favorite sweater

... like finding out Santa Clause isn't real

... like a completely psychotic ex boyfriend begging for someone to take them back

Like losing your best friend (and no I don't mean my husband) only, it's not LIKE losing her if you ACTUALLY ARE.  

That's how I feel today.  

PS. there isn't something I "always say" about this situation other than "I hate it"

THE END.